Attribute-Focused Sex

Because they are so focused on the bottom line, a term that sounds sexier than it is, many Wall Street clients enter sex counseling with a keen eye on their sexual and physical deficits, as if the most precious qualities of sex could be bought or sold like stocks and bonds to increase the value of sexual portfolios. If you count your sexual shortfalls and ignore your bedroom blessings, this book will challenge you to change your thought process. Perhaps it is your mind that is keeping you from having the best sex, so you need to refashion your individual definition of what the “best sex” is. Allow yourself to look for existing attributes—physical, mental, or emotional—that are often hidden behind mental hurdles and roadblocks to how we think about sex. This attribute-focused approach forms the basis of PICA, my four-part clinical model for sex counseling, which stands for Permit, Inform, Counsel, and Absolve.

Following the spirit and guidelines of PICA, this book grants you permission to use your physical attributes to try new things and to perfect old ones. It informs you on various techniques, transitions, and even technology to make sex better, and it forgives you for anything that you did not know or learn prior to reading these pages.

As for the counseling piece, the Fine Tuning chapter assists you in finding the right sex counselor or sex therapist and helps you become a more informed sexual health consumer. Use the recommendations in Fine Tuning to discover secrets for keeping your mind, heart, body, and bedroom primed for sex.